Three years ago, I found myself trapped in the confines of a toxic relationship, unable to find my voice and constantly trying to mold myself into the person I thought my partner wanted me to be. At the same time, I was trapped in a career that brought me nothing but misery and emptiness. I was desperately seeking happiness, trying to meet the standards set by society, but in doing so, I lost sight of who I truly was.
In those dark days, my self-esteem and self-worth were nonexistent. Anxiety gripped me tightly, particularly when it came to relationships. I was paralyzed by the fear of conflict and became a perpetual people-pleaser, constantly striving to become the person I believed others wanted me to be. Seeking validation from friends and romantic partners became my only way of feeling accepted because I hadn’t yet learned how to love myself. Depression enveloped me like a heavy fog, obscuring any hope of finding my way out.
However, today, I stand before you, two years into my own healing journey. I made the bold decision to leave my career in law enforcement behind and make the courageous move to Vancouver—a city that has always felt like home to me. I sought the guidance of a counselor, embarking on a path of confronting my past trauma and rediscovering the person I truly am. Along this journey, I have been blessed with the unwavering support of incredible friends who are always there for me, no matter what. With each passing day, I am making progress, emotionally and spiritually, in becoming the best version of myself. And now, I am committed to supporting other men on their own healing journeys, as a counselor, and as a guiding light.
Recently, I graduated from Rhodes Wellness College, completing the Professional Counselor Program. My passion lies in supporting men as they navigate their own healing, helping them overcome their trauma and find their way to a place of wholeness and self-acceptance.
As men, we have been conditioned to believe that strength is synonymous with stoicism, that showing emotion is a sign of weakness, and that asking for help is somehow a flaw. But I am here to tell you that true strength lies in speaking up, in asking for help, and in forging meaningful connections. True strength is found in vulnerability.
If you find yourself seeking support along your own journey, please don’t hesitate to reach out to me. I am here for you, just as my support system has been there for me. Your struggles matter, and you deserve to find the peace and healing you seek.
With heartfelt compassion and understanding,
Kevin
